Taqdeer (Fate)

Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters...

Yesterday i happenned to read someone's twitter. This person is a female and famous of her materialistic thing. Umm and she said something like this...

and for everyone who envy me because i always get a rich boy,, maybe it's taqdeer. The fact is,, i'm not only judging them by their money but also their brain.. If he's rich but stupid,, just go to the sea...

The last pharse maybe weird.. but it's a catch phrase in indonesian language that kinda have the same meaning with just go t9o hell,, but softer.. anyhoooo...

I know her well,, i was her best friend and i know that she is very particular when it comes to choose her boyfriend. I once like a boy my senior who wearing a motorbike not car,, and she laugh at me out loud. She said "can you imagine if you're going on a date wearing a nice dress and have your make up on,, it would be a mess right since you have to use a helmet and not to mention when it's raining outside"

See,, honestly it did hurt my feeling a bit but since i don't do date,, so that imaginary accident never happen.

Back to what she said,, it's taqdeer. I just feel that something isn't right. How can you blame it on taqdeer,, when you are the one who choose which one do you want? and ditch a boy that using motor bike instead of cars?

Next time it's not impossible when someone said " everyone who envy me for always get someone else's husband as my boyfriend,, maybe it's my taqdeer" see,, how weird is that??

What i'm trying to say in here is,, we can only blame it on taqdeer for a few things,, like life and death for example. Only Allah know when we were born and we will die.

But when it comes to something that you are the one who choose which one is good and bad,, don't said it's taqdeer.. It's just make you look stupid and awful.

Allah gives us brain to think which is good and bad,, so use it wisely and before blame something on taqdeer,, first we must make sure what did we do to prevent that or make that happen.