Taqdeer (Fate)

Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters...

Yesterday i happenned to read someone's twitter. This person is a female and famous of her materialistic thing. Umm and she said something like this...

and for everyone who envy me because i always get a rich boy,, maybe it's taqdeer. The fact is,, i'm not only judging them by their money but also their brain.. If he's rich but stupid,, just go to the sea...

The last pharse maybe weird.. but it's a catch phrase in indonesian language that kinda have the same meaning with just go t9o hell,, but softer.. anyhoooo...

I know her well,, i was her best friend and i know that she is very particular when it comes to choose her boyfriend. I once like a boy my senior who wearing a motorbike not car,, and she laugh at me out loud. She said "can you imagine if you're going on a date wearing a nice dress and have your make up on,, it would be a mess right since you have to use a helmet and not to mention when it's raining outside"

See,, honestly it did hurt my feeling a bit but since i don't do date,, so that imaginary accident never happen.

Back to what she said,, it's taqdeer. I just feel that something isn't right. How can you blame it on taqdeer,, when you are the one who choose which one do you want? and ditch a boy that using motor bike instead of cars?

Next time it's not impossible when someone said " everyone who envy me for always get someone else's husband as my boyfriend,, maybe it's my taqdeer" see,, how weird is that??

What i'm trying to say in here is,, we can only blame it on taqdeer for a few things,, like life and death for example. Only Allah know when we were born and we will die.

But when it comes to something that you are the one who choose which one is good and bad,, don't said it's taqdeer.. It's just make you look stupid and awful.

Allah gives us brain to think which is good and bad,, so use it wisely and before blame something on taqdeer,, first we must make sure what did we do to prevent that or make that happen.

Rasulullah SAW Fun Fact (1)

Assalamualaikum...

Hi brothers and sisters... This is the Fun Fact series about our beloved Rasulullah SAW (pbuh) a short post of his way of life..

Rasulullah told us something about eating habit.. He said

stop eating before you full

Maybe we wondered,, why? How do we know that we had enough food so that we're not hungry for at least the next 12 hours?
We don't... Yet... A week ago,, I watched Al-Kuliyyah in tv3 about halal food.. The professor said,, that our brain need at least 20 minutes to tell our stomach that we full.

So it makes sense that we have to stop eating before we full,, because after 20 minutes we will know that we had enough food. If we eat until we full,n after 20 minutes,, we'll have more than what we need plus,, it makes us sleepy.. Hmmm,, not good..

Masya Allah,, how can someone who live long long time ago and can't even read,, know about something that only scientist can understand after doing a research?

That's one of our beloved rasulullah SAW (pbuh)'s greatness.. A wisdom & great knowledge..

May Allah widens our knowledge and guide us to the right path... Amin

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What is Taaruf?

Assalamualaikum,,

Hi brothers and sisters,, this post is still related to the last one about married.

I'll give you a trivia fact. I've never been dating or have a boyfriend until 22 years now. What? yes,, because i'm not looking for a boyfriend but more to a husband and there's another way which is halal to find your other half beside dating..

"And we have created you in pairs (male and female,, tall and short,, etc)" surah An'Naba verse 8

"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect." surah A-Rum verse 21

It's called taaruf. A little disclaimer,, i can't find a reference about this matter in english.So i will translate it from indonesian. So i'm sorry if i can't explain it in detail.

Taaruf according to urdu language means introduction and in arab language means get to know each other.

Okay,, so now at least we get the picture of what are we gonna talk today.

So instead of dating,, rasulullah suggest taaruf to find you other.

Okay,, now i'm kinda losing my point. (focus kanya,, focus!)

The process:

1. When you think you are ready to get married,, you can start taaruf with either a man/woman that your relatives choose or the one that you choose.
2. Men usually the one who comes to women house to do taaruf (introduction or get to know),, he can come alone or with his relatives.
3. The women must be accompanied by her relatives. So there are 3 or more people in that house.
4. It's suggested that the man and woman meet face to face instead of sending picture,, etc. Because face is not aurat.
5. Both of them can ask each other any question,, it's also suggested that you ask a very detailed and personal things so you can really know them well,, you can also ask their relatives.
6. After you do taaruf you don't have to get married right way. If you feel not comfortable because of one or two things about him/her,, you can just stop right there.
7. But when he/she suits you it's suggested to doing khitbah or propose as soon as possible.

The difference between taaruf and dating: i will make a metaphor for this one.

Imagin pick a woman or a man as your spouse is like buying a second car. Why a second car,, because we are human,, we're complicated. A brand new car is not as complicated as second car right? You don't know what happened to the car for the past years. Okay...

• In dating: Is like buying a second car without examine it throughly. We just look at the body wheter there's a dent or not. Touch it to look make sure it's scratch free. We don't even doing test drive to get the hang of it.
• In taaruf: Also like buying a second car but we are a professional mechanic. We examine the navigation system,, break system,, lamp,, handling,, etc. When it suits you than you can move forward.

The purpose:

• To get to know each other in a halal and the best way.

The advantages:

• You can know about him/her throughly and honestly in a short period of time.
• Did i say there's a bonus? you can get to know their family as well!

What if the one that i like don't want to do taaruf? it's easy,, he/she doesn't meant for you. LIke what Allah promise us..

"Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable."surah An-Nur verse 26

Kanya! How can we now that we suit each other by just that short period of time? easy,, that's why in taaruf you have to ask a very detailed and personal matters. In fact it's not about the quantity but the quality right?

When a man know what he can or can't do according to quran as a husband,, and a woman know what she can or can't do according to qur'an,, what could go wrong? huh? huh? ^_^

Why should make something so easy and hassle free become so hard and full of risk?

ask yourself